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MISS NOT SO INDEPENDENT

This had to be said because I was beginning to become very irritated by the amount of misrepresentation and ill-claiming being done…

Ladies, a REAL independent woman lives her independent lifestyle MODESTLY. Claiming to be an independent woman, talking about how independent you are, and how you “buy your own things”, and “make your own money”, and “got your own house”, and then expecting the man to spend on you, kinda defeats the purpose and your self-image of independence. You cannot claim independence and then go off the mentality that “a Man is SUPPOSED to pay for this and that.” Now, I’m not saying that women should spend on Men if they claim the title of independence. Not the case at all. What I am saying is if you claim it, live it. Do Not spend with the intention on seeing if he will stop you and pay. That is not being independent. That is called testing. Do Not bring up, especially during an argument, the fact that he is suppose to be the man yet you paid for this or you paid for that. That is not claiming independent activities you may have taken. That is you trying to put him down. Your independence then becomes less of him acknowledging it and more of you “rubbing it in his face.” Being modestly independent allows him to be more willing to spend on you, because then it doesn’t become a matter of necessity, but more of a matter of support. He will be more willing to spend on you cause he wants to, and not cause you make him feel like he has to. I know for a fact that someone/people are going to disagree with me, but I feel that there are a number of ladies running around claiming the title of “Miss Independent” just because they heard it in a song and the description of the woman might be similar to them or the life they may live, but being independent is not an Image. It is a LifeStyle. You don’t wear it. You LIVE it…

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FEATURED POET: CeCe

Dangerous Minds

in the mind of a destructive beast,
i follow my heart but take the lead.
improving my strength, and subtracting the weak.
with every great gain,its a loss i sacrifice.
my ambitions drive me all through the brightest days and the darkest nights,
whats the point of stepping into the ring if your not willing to continuously fight ?
sometimes you have to take risks, right ?
sometimes im wrong,but those are called mistakes,
ima lover not a fighter,but i give and dont take.
i fight for the things i love,but i always keep safe;
im dangerous and a problem to success.
i eat it alive but not everyone sees this beautiful heart on my chest.
never said im perfect,but im one of the best.
as i sleep my head shall rest,to destroy my passions until its none left.
then i will inhale the glory of triumph, and have empowered theft.
but such a beautiful sin that rises from the ashes of failure within,
such a gorgeous smile but yet a evil grin, in this devils game its you give yoru all or you give nothing.
at least i can say it all started with something.
no need on fronting,my work speaks for itself...
hating is a non profit organization so haters dont catch the sickness and watch ya health.
i dont wanna be rich i js wanna posses wealth.
i move careful yet so blind to the naked eye, my stealth is bonded within my shadow that hides.
if it wasnt for this new life of mine,i wouldve been a suicide bomb in time.
ticking slowly away till the day i see no more light....
i was willing to step in the ring,and till this day continue to fight <3>

-CECE

"Age has *NO* limit to success"

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THE THIRD VIEW

"...Story of my Life", says My Heart (o_O)

A WOMAN with AMBITION

A strong woman is a woman who is willing to put herself in the face of an obstacle and take a challenge that an average woman would not take. These are the women who get further in life than others will. These are the type of women who are capable of even raising an entire family on their own with no husband, so having one would only make her an extraordinary mother. The world we live in now days has slowly began to switch roles, where as those who were expected to be the strong, the Men, are now putting themselves in situations of weakness, giving the women then opportunity to excel. Regardless, this is no challenge to an Ambitious Woman.

When it comes to choosing a woman, there is nothing like an ambitious one. These are the women who strive for success. The ones who do not take the easy way up and will do whatever must be done to make it far with the intention of never losing their dignity and self-respect. These are the women who gain much more acknowledgement from those who appreciate what she has done and where she is, rather than how long it took her to get there and the image she has. This is the kind of woman every man needs by their side. Their drive for success possesses a stream of motivation. The fact that they are self accomplished makes them less needy materially, allowing buying things for them to be more rewarding than a must or a hassle. This also allows much more room for emotional satisfaction and spiritual connection. These are also the kind of women who will ride for their mates. The kind that would do what they whatever it takes to make sure that their partner life comfortably. She is the type of woman, if financially capable, that would rather her partner not work and travel around with her as she brings in the money. All she asks for in return is their support.

Unfortunately, these ambitious women are the same ones who become targeted by the non-ambitious men of the new generation, otherwise known as the "Scumbags." These are

the ones who will pretend to be there for her while she is excelling. Taking advantage of everything she has accomplished, and using her hard earned money to create their own image. That is not called support. It is called "Leeching." You are sucking whatever wealth she has obtained in an effort to create your own image. Therefore you are a "Sucker." An ambitious woman should be there as inspiration and support for whatever you have planned for your life and/or future. Now if you're telling me that you can not support someone who loves and cares for you so much that they would prefer you not working just to be around them, then an ambitious woman is not for you, and you wasted your time reading this post...Thank you.

FEATURED POET: Sha'neka Morris

"I wrote this June 24,2010, my way of expressing my feelings about a relationship on what should've been our anniversary.."

Weather Blues

Today was a very sentimental day for me
Decided to take a walk on the beach
Though my friends wanted to come to comfort me
Alone is what I needed to be
Sitting bare foot in the sand with
Two champagne glasses and a bottle of wine
thought it would be appropriate for this one occasion
made a toast to what I thought would have been forever
But how selfish of me to feel so dreary
When this beautiful sunset lies right in front of me
Shades of yellow and red reflecting from the sun
Touches the water as the waves become calm..still..at peace
If only love were that simple for me
If only the warmth of the sun's touch could heal the cuts & bruise of this broken heart
So that finally i could be at ease
I just wish that I could be in between the space where the sky & ocean kiss
Know what it feels like to be in that never ending embrace
I am constantly movin towards that on going line
In what feels like a slow motion pace
Never been able to get close enough in arms length
I wana pull that space apart look behind it just to see if
there is something deeper more profound beyond the horizon
My curiousity wont let me rest until I know if its real or not
Searching for that one thing that would make it all better
So I drink until I can block out all the images of us together
So that your face becomes a blurr
So that I dont feel the need to wana replace
That space where you once were
And I have worn myself out..
Reflecting on the mistakes I've made
Retracing the tracks trying to find that loop hole of where it all went wrong
Tormenting myself with the notion that I
was just your way of getting over her..
And although that maybe false.. I am certain it holds some truth
For you to easily turn and walk away without the slightest glance back
to see if there is something worth holding on to
Your words...Your actions.. cut me too deep
And the only conclusion anyone can come up with.. "It wasn't meant to be"
But in the back of my mind all I can phantom is "How much I guna miss him"
Even buried my past in hopes that I started something special
Planted a seed to watch it grow into something I know has potential
Surrounded with a garden full of beauty
But one seed.. doesn't want to grow into anything more
It shocks me ... I never seen a flower afraid to blossom in the sunlight
Feelings drifted away like the changing of the seasons, a love so hot just ended so cold
The line where land & sky meet be come more out of reach
I use the horizon as a metaphor for LOVE because..
The Closer I seem to go towards it..The further it drifts away from me...

Sha'neka Morris

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CHANCES and RELATIONSHIPS

NOTE TO READER: I KNOW you might disagree with this post, but this has been lingering around in my head all day so I felt that it needed to be said. Hopefully while you are reading this, you can put your own beliefs and/or personal experiences to the side and try to take in and understand where I'm coming from:

Second Chances in a relationship...My opinion?

There is no such thing as a second chance in a relationship. With that said, I feel that it is safe to say that there is also no such thing as continuous chances in a relationship. The reason I feel so is this: In order for there to be a "second chance", the same conditions of the previous settings must be met, including feelings and emotional strength that existed before the now corrupted bond of the two mates. In order for that to be possible, the damage(s) done to one's emotions must be undone in a way that the feeling(s) and memory(s) of being hurt becomes nonexistent...which is Impossible. Emotions cannot be fixed or replaced. They can only be tended and catered to.

The word "Chance" is associated with the word "opportunity: due to a favorable combination of circumstances." The direct definition of "chance" is given as "the unknown and unpredictable element in happenings that seems to have no assignable cause." Therefore, the only real time a chance is being taken is in the very beginning of the relationship, where there is unpredictability. You are given an opportunity to make something happen out of uncertainty. There are no assigned causes. That is a chance. For one to mess up and ask for a second chance is literally and theoretically impossible due to the fact that they are already aware of most of the do's and don'ts. There are conditions also placed, terms which must be met, and things must be done to correct the previous wrongs. Ones there are certainties, it no longer considered a chance. It is now considered as an Opportunity, A retry, A redo. These things allow for certainties and conditions. Chance does not.

With that said, I will conclude by saying that in a relationship, there is only one Chance, the beginning. For one to allow someone to correct a mistake is to allow them to maintain in your life. But to say you are giving them a second chance is false because you are consciously or subconsciously expected them to repeat their actions. The idea of what happened will also cloud your mind and cause you to regress more than you previously did, which would make it a whole new ground. Chances are risks. Giving someone an opportunity to reattempt what they messed up on or to allow one back is less of a risk and more of a test. You have an expected right result and an expected wrong result. A pass will lead to rebuilding and continuation. A fail will lead to termination. These are what is known as certainties, not uncertainties, and therefore not a chance. The only true Chance is the first occurrence...

There...I Said it.