CHANCES and RELATIONSHIPS

NOTE TO READER: I KNOW you might disagree with this post, but this has been lingering around in my head all day so I felt that it needed to be said. Hopefully while you are reading this, you can put your own beliefs and/or personal experiences to the side and try to take in and understand where I'm coming from:

Second Chances in a relationship...My opinion?

There is no such thing as a second chance in a relationship. With that said, I feel that it is safe to say that there is also no such thing as continuous chances in a relationship. The reason I feel so is this: In order for there to be a "second chance", the same conditions of the previous settings must be met, including feelings and emotional strength that existed before the now corrupted bond of the two mates. In order for that to be possible, the damage(s) done to one's emotions must be undone in a way that the feeling(s) and memory(s) of being hurt becomes nonexistent...which is Impossible. Emotions cannot be fixed or replaced. They can only be tended and catered to.

The word "Chance" is associated with the word "opportunity: due to a favorable combination of circumstances." The direct definition of "chance" is given as "the unknown and unpredictable element in happenings that seems to have no assignable cause." Therefore, the only real time a chance is being taken is in the very beginning of the relationship, where there is unpredictability. You are given an opportunity to make something happen out of uncertainty. There are no assigned causes. That is a chance. For one to mess up and ask for a second chance is literally and theoretically impossible due to the fact that they are already aware of most of the do's and don'ts. There are conditions also placed, terms which must be met, and things must be done to correct the previous wrongs. Ones there are certainties, it no longer considered a chance. It is now considered as an Opportunity, A retry, A redo. These things allow for certainties and conditions. Chance does not.

With that said, I will conclude by saying that in a relationship, there is only one Chance, the beginning. For one to allow someone to correct a mistake is to allow them to maintain in your life. But to say you are giving them a second chance is false because you are consciously or subconsciously expected them to repeat their actions. The idea of what happened will also cloud your mind and cause you to regress more than you previously did, which would make it a whole new ground. Chances are risks. Giving someone an opportunity to reattempt what they messed up on or to allow one back is less of a risk and more of a test. You have an expected right result and an expected wrong result. A pass will lead to rebuilding and continuation. A fail will lead to termination. These are what is known as certainties, not uncertainties, and therefore not a chance. The only true Chance is the first occurrence...

There...I Said it.