The Quest for "Mr./Mrs. Right!" One of man's most difficult challenges due to one's feel of not just finding a mate, cause in that case we could just grab the nearest person and begin the mating process, but one finding a mate they feel compelled and passionate towards. These days, everyone has some type of idea of the type of person they would like to spend their lives with, so they go through the trial and error phase, the dating scene, until they meet this fantasy person. What they don't seem to realize is that they probably already met them and have been around them their whole lives. The one most suitable to be "Mr./Mrs. Right" is most likely someone you pushed into the friend zone. These are the people who are: there for you when you need them, always makes you smile, listens to you when you speak, ready to fight for you no matter the situation, hate to see you cry, always giving you good advice, willing to drop their last buck for you, and tells you the truth wether to want to hear it or not. These are the ones who keep it real and ride with you till the end. The ones who come to your weddings and sit in the crowd, tempted to jump up and speak against your marriage, but are so much more worried about your happiness and the continuation of your friendship that they tuck their pride away and continue to hide their feelings for you. Everyone has someone like this in their lives. You might not know who they are exactly, or you might even have an idea but have chosen to ignore it due to the idea that "it might ruin your friendship" but here's the thing, a relationship can easily go both ways depending on how dedicated one is in it. A good friendship will last a lifetime, even if both parties were previously involved. But back to what I was saying, the ones who actually care about us are the ones we tend to Push into the infamous "friend zone." You can't walk around and claim that "all guys are dogs" and "all men lie and cheat" or "all girls lie" and "girls are sneaky and conniving" because I can guarantee that you have at least one guy or girl friend who does not fit into any of those categories. My question to you is, as good as they have been to you and as loving, caring, and supportive as they have been in your life, how come you've never looked at them more than just a friend?...Hmmm
omg, if this aint the truth then idk. i was just talking about this with the girls the other day. and not only do u put them in the "friend" category, u often neglect them as well. but the day they stop loving u or reaching out as much, then u wanna act shocked....smh...
ReplyDeleteYeah. That's definitely thee truth. People have been walking passed and letting so many potential mates get away from them because if their cluelessness. And its so sad to see how some regret never giving them that chance once they see that person happy with someone else who did.
ReplyDeletethat's simple, cause people choose that person to be their friends because they are not their "type" and without having throw out the friendship in its entirety, they choose to have the friend around...I know, cause I do it, lol I know, sick right? but Im not gonna treat someone cold who likes me, after all...who am I to treat someone wrong just cause they liked me, I cant help that I dont like them, just as I cant help that they like me...Im sure its alot deeper than that though...I've put men in friend zones for ignoring my calls or havin kids, but then again it depends on the type of person you ask...I could go on forever...I'd love to tell you all about it one day....you seem like a great converser..so when you get more responses let me know : )
ReplyDeleteLol Yeah you absolutely have a point there. Its just when people finally realize that the person they thought wasn't their type, actually was, and they were blinded by their own expectations. Ive seen it all too many times. And my then, the friendship has grown too strong to compromise it with emotions, or the friend has found someone who gave them a chance...But I get what you mean and where you're coming from...Nice choice of words. You seem like a great converser your self. Very nice trait to have, might I add. =)
ReplyDeletethank you honey! ;)
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